Parents’ Heartache

I come to realise that when we were younger, playing truant is forgivable or at least understandable. It's all part and parcel of growing up. Well, that's what i believe though, not speaking on behalf of anyone. Although, i am not saying that it is OKAY to do so but pandai-pandai la...

However, when adults play truant, it is no longer forgivable. In fact, it is just plain irresponsible and ignorant. Why? Come on people....our parents are not immortals. They are just normal human beings who like all of us can grow old and fragile. By right, when we have all grown up as adults and our parents have grown old...they are suppose enjoy their remaining years and not worry about their grown up kids. 

How can parents feel happy and enjoy life when all they see is their grown up kids who can't think of their future, who still leech on them although they are working adults, who goes out every night and come home very late (or very early in the morning) at night partying, getting wasted—weekends cannot party one a?, who doesn't give a damn if the car insurance is overdue and the uncle has to pay for him/her and end up the uncle has to rudely "REMIND" the parents to pay him back, who doesn't think that securing a steady job even when the opportunity is there is important because, maybe because he/she thinks he/she can score better---but when? Remember, it's the world recession now!, who thinks that his/her friends are more important than spending quality time with the parents/family, who takes their parents for granted, who would never answer his/her calls whenever the parents call while he/she is out with her friends stating the same stale reason—"ndak dgr abis sia kasi silent", etc.....

Wake up! You are no longer teenagers. You are bloody adults now. I am not saying i am angel, i can assure i definitely am not...i am still learning how to become a better child because i know i was and probably am still a disappointment to my parents but at least, i am aware...now.

You may say that it's not easy living with them under the same roof, but that's just mere excuse. Whatever it is, they are your parents, regardless of whether, living together or separately. The matter of the fact is...they are suffering...it hurts to hear sound of your mother's voice crackle while trying to hold back the tears, or when she starts talking about how she wishes that she would die soon rather seeing you throw away your life, when your father starts talking about how he won't be able to live to see you get hitched, when your father just sleep whole day in the bedroom because he is too distraught and disappointed with your actions, when your mother calls to say that "kanapala anak-anak kami semua ni makin tua makin macam mau cacat tu utak?", when your mother said that she has been trying to put sense into the thick head of yours and your father would say " janganlah selalu berkeras sama derang macam tu...basar suda derang juga...jangan kasih tekanan" because he believes that you will change, when your father would love to go yamcha with his children but your friends are more important...

What hurts the most is when --- your father and mother would have breakfast, dinner or yamcha ALONE by themselves because their beloved kids don't think that they are important enough to be hanging out with....

I wonder if you have any idea how much pain you are putting on them. You may not even realise it maybe because you are too ignorant or maybe you are in denial....

Well, i hope you read this...and when you do.....i hope you know what to do...and i hope it's the right thing....

 

 

God bless....

Thursday, September 24, 2009